Are you a Talker or a Doer?
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People, for the most part, have good intentions. I have discovered that there are two kinds of people when it comes to getting things done. Are you a Talker or a Doer?
Talkers
Talkers are the ones who step up and say, “I’ll be there to help at 2 o’clock” or “Let’s throw a party.” When it comes time to show up or split the cost, they aren’t there. They show up late after everything is done. And usually there is the question, “Why didn’t you call? I could have come earlier?” When you do ask for help, there is often an excuse for why they can’t help right now, but they are happy to do it later (which is too late). On the back end, they are never there for breakdown or cleanup.
Doers
Doers are the ones who get it done. No questions asked, they start working on whatever is needed and get it done. They need minimal direction. If they aren’t sure of something, they will ask. If an answer is not provided in a timely manner, they do it the way they believe it should be done. Check off the list and move on to the next item.
Talkers vs Doers
My most noteworthy thought on ‘Are you a talker or a doer? ‘ Is when people are in a time of need. When something big happens, such as a loved one being hospitalized, your house catches on fire, or you’re having a baby, it baffles me when the question is asked, “What do you need?” I understand that this question is asked because some people are unsure of what to do and seek direction.
The talker asks what they can do and then never follows through because they can’t decide how best to help. Typically, the person being asked will say there is nothing they need because most people don’t like to ask for help.
The doer will ask how they can help differently. For example, “What time is Johnny’s soccer practice? I can drop him off and pick him up for you.” Doers ask what restaurants you like, and buy gift cards or make meals to drop off. They show up to walk your dogs or call to ask what time is best to babysit so you can shower or nap.
In no way am I saying talkers aren’t good people. Talkers think differently. They discuss options and come up with great ideas, but they seem unable to put them into motion.
Doers get taken advantage of and get run over—because they’re the ones who show up, step in, and get things done without waiting to be asked. Their reliability can be mistaken for availability, and others assume they’ll carry the weight. Doers are people of action.
At the end of the day, whether you are a talker or a doer, the most important thing is to be kind. Lend a helping hand and care about your fellow humans.